I want to know how I can send custom emails to members and include their own record so they can confirm all information is correct
Operating system and version? Default email client?
Google search "email every user site:forums.filemaker.com"
To include "their own record" in the email, you can reproduce the data from that record as plain text in the email body or by attaching a PDF of a layout that displays the data from their record.
Filemaker Pro Advanced 11 on Mac OSX Lion using OSX Mail as email client
Try selecting Send | Mail from the file menu and see if you can send an email to your self. This confirms you are configured correctly to use Mail as your client and shows you the dialog you can use for sending the emails you want to send. This same dialog can be used in scripts for more automation of the email process.
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