Instead of editing the layout, you'll need to edit the relationship if you want to see contacts related by address instead of names.
To edit a relationship, you'll have to select Manage | Database | Relationships.
(Making a backup copy before you make this change would be a very good idea.)
Thats great Phil but how on earth do i do that??
Which lines do I move where?? Im afraid i just have no idea what im talking about?
You'll need to learn how to do this. There are books and tutorials on the subject and you are always welcome to ask specific questions here.