You can host the databases on your mac and connect as a client from the iPad using open remote. You can purchase a sync system from companies such as www.seedcode.com , www.360works.com or create or own sync system. http://www.filemaker.com/solutions/ios/docs/fmi_guide_sync_en.pdf
Thanks. Looked up the purchase systems. Way too much money or me. As far as creating my own, I think I am way over my head. I can't believe that there isn't something as easy as Bento was. When I transferred files to my Mac from my Ipad as they said, I couldn't get those files imported into FM. When I tried to do the import, it said I couldn't transfer a table into a table. I guess I need to learn more about FM but not sure I will get it.