In layout mode, it's under the layout menu, layout setup, there is a checkbox that says something like "deliniate fields on active record only".
Once you uncheck that it will display the field borders on all of your records. I think it's checked by default though.
Thanks sooooo much . . I've been pulling my hair out trying to find this . . . Have a happy holiday
There's a new feature in FM13 that allows you to do list rows better, I always found this setting a little annoying, but not as annoying as the 3px active row indicator on the left side of the layout (also fixed in 13).