Are you in Open Remote's Favorites or Local connections? Or are you in the Quickstart menu?
The valid IP Address shows up in both the Favorites and in the Local Hosts list. I'm not sure about the "Quickstart Menu." I have an alias on my desktop (Mac) that links to the original file on my computer. When I double-click on it, I get the option of opening either this local file or one that was previously loaded on a server with a different IP Address. I can't seem to get access to this "Phantom" server to delete the file. The only option that works is to open the local file, close it, then use Open Remote. It does allow me to open the file that is on the correct server. I prefer to make changes on this "served" copy. This seems like a laborious workaround! Any suggestion would be greatly appreciated.
The alias on your desktop is an alias to a local version not on the server. When you open a local version, it warns to confirm you want to open the local one since usually you want to open the server, which you do in this case. It is doing you a big favor here.
To fix it, create a new alias, but not to a local version. Make the alias to the server. Just use a URL link to fmp://[server IP]/database and it'll work just fine. You can go into a web browser and do this.
Now... please tell me again how I create an alias to the served version. I've tried with no success. Guess I'm such a newbie!