The best thing for me I think would be if its possible to change that radial button from "specify users by privilege set" to "all users" if that is possible. Or if i can just log in and somehow put in a new privilege set. as of right know i can't manage any privilege sets cause when i log in i am only allowed to log in with a "read only" privilege.
Turned off the filemaker services on file maker server
went into each database locally to chang the privilege accounts
restarted the services
log into the database and give the accounts that I want access to it